We Are Family: You Can't Choose Your Family, but You Can Choose to Love the Ones You're With
Posted by Gabby Turner on Thursday, September 6, 2012 Under: Tarot
After two months sans-blogging I had started to feel the craving for a good, keyboard-tapping entry! Not sure what to write about though I consulted the tarot for guidance. Initially I pulled the Lovers card. What should I say about LOVE? I asked, and pulled the 10 of cups and the 6 of Swords for clarification.
The Lovers card is of course about relationship and love. In this reading it is clarified by the 10 of Cups (the happy family card) and the 6 of Swords (the painful healing of relationships card). This combo is relevant as I am currently experiencing great progress in familial healing, but the process is certainly not all unicorns and butterflies. I won't bog you down with my personal details, but these cards do also remind me that learning to love our families, and more importantly, learning that we are loved BY our families, is not an unusual life lesson. Many if not most of us have experienced woundedness regarding family and what might seem like a lack of love.
What do these cards tell us about the process of healing our familial relationships? First, the lovers card (which is associated with the sign of Gemini) shows us how others can be a mirror to ourselves. So if you want to know, "Why does my mother never listen?" maybe the question you should be really asking is "Why do I never listen to my mother?" Instead of, "Why is my brother so annoying?" perhaps ask, "What is it about me that makes me so annoyed with my brother?" We cannot change the other, but we can change ourselves. The Lovers card is also often representative of CHOICE. We may not be able to choose the families we are born into, but we can choose whether or not to continue to relate to them in healthy or unstable ways.
The 10 of Cups shows us what a loving, healthy, happy family unit looks like. Looking at the 10 of Cups, we can easily imagine that the people in this family are mutually supportive of each other emotionally. They appear to rejoice in their interconnection. On the one hand, this card shows us what we are all capable of achieving: pure familial love. On the other hand, it shows us what we likely already have and are not fully are of: pure familial love.
Finally, the 6 of Swords teaches us that the road to healing might be uncomfortable, but forward movement is still progress. Every conversation that is made with the intention of love and healing opens our hearts wider to our loved ones. Every step in the right direction is a step in the right direction, even when the going gets rough. Afraid of reaching out to your mother, sister, father, brother, cousin, aunt, grandparent? This card tells us that even when reaching out to someone in our family might seem difficult, doing so is healing in and of itself. Uncomfortable? Tense? Depending upon your situation it might be those things as well, but that doesn't mean it doesn't still benefit you. Healing can be a difficult journey, but it leads ultimately to peace.
The Lovers card is of course about relationship and love. In this reading it is clarified by the 10 of Cups (the happy family card) and the 6 of Swords (the painful healing of relationships card). This combo is relevant as I am currently experiencing great progress in familial healing, but the process is certainly not all unicorns and butterflies. I won't bog you down with my personal details, but these cards do also remind me that learning to love our families, and more importantly, learning that we are loved BY our families, is not an unusual life lesson. Many if not most of us have experienced woundedness regarding family and what might seem like a lack of love.
What do these cards tell us about the process of healing our familial relationships? First, the lovers card (which is associated with the sign of Gemini) shows us how others can be a mirror to ourselves. So if you want to know, "Why does my mother never listen?" maybe the question you should be really asking is "Why do I never listen to my mother?" Instead of, "Why is my brother so annoying?" perhaps ask, "What is it about me that makes me so annoyed with my brother?" We cannot change the other, but we can change ourselves. The Lovers card is also often representative of CHOICE. We may not be able to choose the families we are born into, but we can choose whether or not to continue to relate to them in healthy or unstable ways.
The 10 of Cups shows us what a loving, healthy, happy family unit looks like. Looking at the 10 of Cups, we can easily imagine that the people in this family are mutually supportive of each other emotionally. They appear to rejoice in their interconnection. On the one hand, this card shows us what we are all capable of achieving: pure familial love. On the other hand, it shows us what we likely already have and are not fully are of: pure familial love.
Tarot of Prague: 10 of Cups
Finally, the 6 of Swords teaches us that the road to healing might be uncomfortable, but forward movement is still progress. Every conversation that is made with the intention of love and healing opens our hearts wider to our loved ones. Every step in the right direction is a step in the right direction, even when the going gets rough. Afraid of reaching out to your mother, sister, father, brother, cousin, aunt, grandparent? This card tells us that even when reaching out to someone in our family might seem difficult, doing so is healing in and of itself. Uncomfortable? Tense? Depending upon your situation it might be those things as well, but that doesn't mean it doesn't still benefit you. Healing can be a difficult journey, but it leads ultimately to peace.
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Tags: family healing tarot "10 of cups" "six of swords"
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